Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Sneak peek


It has been too long since my last blog update! But I have not forgotten about you, dear reader. While other projects have stolen my time, I have been purring over plans of a magical adventure for you.

The story? Two goddesses duel over who will control the men of the world. What can a slave boy do when trapped in their lair? Whatever they say, of course!

Here is juuust enough of the cover to tease you with, my dear. Stay tuned for more fun.

Saturday, March 8, 2014

#femdomjokes

A male patient is lying in bed in the hospital, wearing an oxygen mask over his mouth and nose, still heavily sedated from a difficult four hour surgical procedure.

A pretty nurse appears to give him a partial sponge bath. "Nurse," the man mumbles, "Are my testicles black?"

Embarrassed, the young nurse replies, "I don't know, sir. I'm only here to wash your upper body."

He struggles to ask again, "Nurse, are my testicles black?"

Concerned that the man might elevate his blood pressure from concern about his testicles, the nurse overcomes her embarrassment and pulls back the covers. She raises his patient gown, lifts his manhood and examines the area closely. "They look fine," she assures him.

The man pulls off his oxygen mask, smiles at her and says very slowly, "Thank you very much. That was wonderful. But please, tell me: are my test results back?"

Monday, November 11, 2013

The Hesitant Mistress - Free digital edition

The Hesitant Mistress is now available for loyal fans through the Kindle Matchbook program.

If you own or buy a paperback edition of The Hesitant Mistress, you can now download a free digital copy to your Kindle device or app. Learn more.

Monday, August 5, 2013

Those thoughtful touches

Two days ago, my slaveboy offered the type of submission I love most: voluntary service.

Sure, most submissive men would prefer to be actively dominated ("On your knees, worm!") but as a domme, it thrills me to know my slave is my slave when I'm not even there. It's romantic. It demonstrates devotion. Most of all, it arouses me. So pay attention, boys - here's how to wow your woman.

This weekend my boy and I spent a long and lovely vacation together. We booked a hotel for the weekend and spent hot days out in the summer sun. One night, I returned to the hotel bathroom to freshen up before bed, and discovered a dab of toothpaste on my toothbrush. My boy had put it there while brushing his own teeth. It was a thoughtful little touch intended to make my life easier.

Understand, I don't need toothpaste added to my toothbrush. I'm an adult. I can do this myself. It takes me less than 10 seconds. It would never occur to me to assign this task to my boy. But he took it upon himself.

When I emerged from the bathroom, I gave my boy the lavish praise he was hoping for. I wanted him to understand how much I appreciated this sweet little touch in my day.

And, guess what? In the morning, the toothpaste was there again.

This is romance. Flowers, chocolates, all of those cliches - they're just this dab of toothpaste, a moment taken out of the day to say "I'm thinking of you."

I've read somewhere about another femdom couple that did something similar with toilet paper. The boy folded the ends of the roll like a hotel service to top off his bathroom cleaning session, and it tickled the domme so much that he's kept up the practice ever since. It's become a running joke. I'm sure this couple loves each other very much - and they are reminded every time this tiny, two-second event takes place.

You don't have to keep surprises confined to your bathroom, of course. Treat your domme to thoughtful touches anywhere. Pack her lunch. Shine her shoes. Organize a drawer. Give something extra. Any little thing that makes her life easier will earn you points - and make you a treasured, lucky boy.

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Monday, July 8, 2013

Emotional manipulation in femdom

Withholding sex. Scolding. Name-calling. Grudging approval outweighed by disapproval. The cold shoulder. Shaming. Abandonment. Humiliation.

If you're reading my writing, you probably find these things pretty hot. And they can be. But I'd like to point out what makes them sexy, and not actual abuse. Got your pencil ready? Here it is:

Ethics.

Ethics means being honest with your partner. It means that there's no hidden agenda. The "manipulation" of the submissive is out in the open, and "taking advantage" of him happens with his full knowledge and consent.

When I give an order, my submissive and I exchange a knowing look, and he begins his task with blushing awareness that he is being pussy whipped. He loves it. If there were any actual manipulation going on - chilly passive-aggressive hints, guilt tripping, and other childish vanilla posturing - he would have every right to call me on it. He cannot respect me if I do not respect him.

Ethics means protecting your partner. If your man is your submissive, you're in charge of his well-being. If you're going to push him into questionable tasks, they need to be beneficial: facing his fears, exploring his psyche, proving himself, making him a better man.

Demanding that he buy you jewelry will not make him a better man. It doesn't protect or improve him; it victimizes him. Instead, demand that he buy you dinner the night he launches his new business. (Or replace "dinner" with "a strap on" if that's more your thing.) Demand that he suck it up and push through difficulties. Demand that he try harder, be better, make you proud.

When I first researched femdom years ago, the instructions I found were lousy (and prompted me to write The Hesitant Mistress). The prevailing theories came out of some sort of subconscious female inferiority complex. Things like: You have to bribe your slave with sex. You can never let him penetrate you or he "wins." You have to pretend that he can't do anything right. You have to pick a stereotype to mimic (unlike male doms); you can't just use your own natural authority as a responsible adult.

Even as a beginner, I knew that was not the way to be. It's dishonest. It's fake. It adds tension instead of relieving it. It robs you of your own innate power. It cheats both partners out of an incredible opportunity to connect.

Psychopathic behavior may seem hot in the short term, but I advise against incorporating it into your sex life. Would you rather have a relationship that drains your soul, or one that fills it to bursting?

Love your partner, my dear readers. You deserve each other, so make it good.